He who rejects change is the architect of decay. The only human institution which rejects progress is the cemetery.
Harold Wilson
I am confident enough to say that I have always been well aware of my strength and my flaws. Yet, I had never come to terms with myself to change my flaws because I have always believed that everyone in this world is unique and different, so why should I change myself? Just another thing that left me puzzled is that why people do not offer me the same form of tolerance and acceptance when I never judged them for who they are and how they behaved, so why are they discriminating me? The second thought conflicted with my first thought I supposed, to a certain extent. I forgot that people are different, they are different from me. Just because I don't judge them and accept them for who they are doesn't mean that they will reciprocal. Now, I know.
The question now is, should I change to make myself more acceptable and hence being less true of myself and inflict more self-doubts in myself and jeopardize my love life even more than I did? Just so people are more comfortable around me? How is this gonna work? How can people love me when I don't even love myself? What people may love is just the image I portray.
Stubbornness does have its helpful features. You always know what you are going to be thinking tomorrow.
Glen Beaman
The fact that stubbornness is indeed a HUGE part of my personality, I highly doubt that I can be that flexible just because I am now at the point of my life where I MAYBE coming to terms with the expectation of the world and how I behave around them.
I still want to be determined, strong and decisive tomorrow, but I think developing my emotional and sympathy features would be nice to the world. I may be doing a good deed just by being less true and telling people fake stuff when they ask for my opinion. Guess this is just how pathetic my life is. Can't even believe in honesty is the best policy.
haha.... honesty is the best policy sounds good in certain circumstances.
ReplyDeleteThe golden rule of living in this society "it all depends on the situation."
Abt the changing your personality. I dun think tat's a bad thing to change. I always change to be more acceptable by the society. That's nothing wrong, it's not "change", it's "improvement".
I become a better person by adjusting myself to the society. So, I always love my changes. If change does not do me good, why change?
Same logic, I change becos it do me good.
If it do me good, it's surely a good thing to change.
I will never not love myself just becos i changed myself. Becos I am still me, just a better me!
So, dear. No worry abt changing yourself for the ppl around u. It's good for u n the world~